Choose your battles

I promised myself I will not engage into this debate but it seems that its haunting me. Every time I log on to my facebook or any other news outlet there is an article on femen. Femen the “feminist” group who is claiming to save us Muslim women.

Now everyone is really entitled to be delusional in whatever way they want but what is really sad is that there are some Muslim women such as Muslimah Pride who decides to protest against them. I always learned to choose my battles and this battle is a complete waste of time and energy.

As human beings we were sent to this earth to protect and care for it and we are doing a very POOR job so far. Not only are we destroying the land but we are also wasting our energy fighting each other.

The concept of white women saving women of color has been there since the dawn of time that eventually evolved into non-Muslim white women saving Muslim women. There is a lot of Muslim women out there who have achieved so much such as

Yasmin Mogahed received her B.S. Degree in Psychology and her Masters in Journalism and Mass Communications from the University of Wisconsin-Madison. After completing her graduate work, she taught Islamic Studies and worked as a writing instructor for Cardinal Stritch University, and a staff columnist for the Islam section of InFocus News. Currently she’s a freelance writer and international speaker. She also hosts Serenity, her show on One Legacy Radio and maintains her website, yasminmogahed.com.

Zainah Anwar is a prominent Malaysian non-governmental organization leader, activist and Muslim feminist. She was the head of Sisters in Islam for over two decades before stepping down. http://www.sistersinislam.org.my

Tawakkol Karman who became the international public face of the 2011 Yemeni uprising that is part of the Arab Spring uprisings. She has been called by Yemenis the “Iron Woman” and “Mother of the Revolution.” She is a co-recipient of the 2011 Nobel Peace Prize, becoming the first Yemeni, the first Arab woman, and the second Muslim woman to win a Nobel Prize and the youngest Nobel Peace Laureate to date.

Sarah Joseph is CEO and Editor of Muslim lifestyle magazine emel and commentator on British Muslims. She is a writer and a broadcaster and lectures on Islam both within the UK and internationally (USA, Europe, Middle and Far East). Sarah converted to Islam at the age of 16 in 1988 after being brought up as a Catholic.

Dr. Zainab Alwani is an Assistant Professor of Islamic Studies at the Howard University School of Divinity. She is an Islamic scholar, researcher, and community activist. In addition to being the first female jurist to serve on the board for the Fiqh Council of North America (FCNA), Dr. Alwani currently serves as the Vice President of the FCNA. Her research focuses on Quranic studies, Islamic jurisprudence, the relationship between civil and religious law in the area of family and gender, comparative religions, and inter-religious dialogue.

Heba Rauf Ezzat Egyptian political scientist and Islamic thinker and activist. She was educated in German Catholic schools and is at the point of receiving a Ph.D. in political science from Cairo University. Rauf has become a prominent spokesperson on gender issues in Egypt and on the Internet.

And many others….

All those amazing women were ignored along with their powerful work towards creating a change. Femen or any other white feminist group cant see our worth through our actions SO what makes you think you can show it through mere words?

And seriously the card of covered women are oppressed bla bla nonsense is getting too old and boring please find another worthy card to fight Islam. It is shameful for feminists to fight some thing and exploit other women in the process.

Choose your battles carefully; don’t waste your breath of lost causes. At the end I leave you with 2 pictures, the first one is a Somali women who mourning the death of her child because she can’t feed him, she kneels right there naked helpless next to him, the 2nd one a Femen member standing topless in front of the camera, she stating that their breasts is their weapon.

I say our mind is our weapon and I choose to fight for/with the Somali woman with all my heart, what about you?

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A View on some Muslim Women

After I started wearing the hijab people started to look at me in a different way as if I am expected to behave in a certain way, I was no longer allowed to make mistakes. I understand completely that the hijab is a statement, this statement saying I am a Muslimah and proud of it. But that doesn’t mean that I am not a human being with desires and hopes.

Coming from Egypt, the Hijab to the majority of Egyptians is a tradition more than it’s a religious reason. It’s a sign of the woman’s piety, so what happened is that parents and different family members (males and females) push the girl after reaching puberty to wear the hijab even if she doesn’t want to.

Consequently of-course this woman feels trapped, and wants to break free. So they do that through many ways, for example taking it off after they leave the house, start getting a boyfriend or several, and now even getting a girlfriend or several, there are many outlets for a woman. (If that was by her choice then that’s her choice but since it’s a way of rebellion it always gets her into trouble with society)

So if you go to Al Azhar Park for example or walk by the Nile on the 6th of October bridge you would find many couples, walking hand in hand or making out on a bench. We judge them and say they are bad women or they are bad representation of Islam, or we just sit and watch in silence with great frustration saying “Ah Arab women are lost, Allah help us from the eternal hell of immorality that we are facing”.

Mo7jbat are women and like any women on this planet they have desires, they have desires to be love, they have the desire to be kissed, hugged even to have sex. It’s human nature. We are not Nuns.

Usually when a woman start seeking love outside of her family this means that they are not giving her enough love, enough security, enough sense of acceptance what and do men outside her family do? they take advantage of that.

From Islamic perspective all the above including sex is essential it is not a bad thing, and accordingly Allah has given us certain channel were we can have all of this without committing a sin which is marriage.

Now marriage, if a guy takes a girlfriend and has his way with her there is absolutely nothing that would make him continue with that girl and he usually leaves her. Now what pisses me off is that our society punishes the girl and leaves the guy. WHY? Because the girl is a pearl a diamond once touched she loses her value “el bent zay 3oud el kabreet ma-bet-wa3lsh ella marra wa7da” (A**) while the guy is foolish, he will eventually grow up and find stability and a good wife who is a VIRGIN. (From where I really don’t know), and pisses me even more is that he would be will to get married to a non-Arab who is not virgin but not an Egyptian.

It’s the woman’s mistake why did she allow him, and we don’t put in consideration women’s desires and needs, but most of all we didn’t put in consideration that she just have simply trusted and loved that man.This happens in all social classes but especially the middle and the lower classes.

We (men and women) shouldn’t act like Gods and judge others just by what they are doing without looking into why they are doing what they are doing. Look beneath the ice-berg.

To men have mercy on the women; some of you behave like dogs without any consideration to our feelings. Stop toying with our feelings and hearts. Stop sexually harassing women you see on the streets because eventually it will happen to your sister or to your mother. What comes around goes around. Guess what if you want marry a Khadija you have to be Mohamed, because Khadija will not marry Abo Lahab.

I know that there are good men and bad women as well, but you see when a man sees a woman on the street getting harassed and doesn’t do anything about makes him just as bad. They are also just as bad if they judge women who are not acting up to “their” level of moral standards

To Women be proud of who you are, and give them HELL