IT IS MY BUSINESS!!!

I was having Iftar today with some friends of mine in downtown, the streets were almost empty just a few people here and there. We finished our iftar and started walking towards borsa cafe, we were crossing that street between the church and the mosque  when suddenly we saw a man throwing a woman in the middle of road and stepping on her with his feet, and calling her a whore. They both looked like they belonged from poor class.

When my friends and I saw this we rushed towards them the men grabbed the man and the women grabbed the woman and helped her stand up as she was on the ground. But she couldnt stand for long she was very weak so we helped her sit on the side walk. while i was helping her a man yelled at her saying that its her fault and that she should ask for forgiveness for making her husband angry…I yelled at him and told him that it doesnt matter if he was her husband or not; he has no right to beat her up like this, the guy looked at me disappointed and walked away.

The woman got up and said she had left her kid somewhere and she wants to go get her. I really dont know what happened but suddenly i saw her husband walking towards us with a rock in his hands, she was hiding behind me while about 3 men trying to pull him back he was moving towards us. I felt her hand hold me from behind like a scared little kid, i didnt move, i stood my ground, i stood my ground it was the right thing to do, i stood my ground because i knew i would never forgive myself if i move i let him hurt her.

Luckily i had my brave friends with who were able to restrain him and pull him away, in the mean time another guy came into the picture and started also calling her bad names, it was the brother, i yelled at him he complained to my friends saying he will not hurt his sister and that they shouldnt let women (me) talk so loudly when there are men around, calling 7areem (ugh hate that name). Finally he was calm but we found her husband coming back with her kid, his step daughter, not his child, and wanted to hurt the kid since he couldnt get to the mother, his wife. The brother saved the child and gave her to the woman, the wife, and they both walk away while the men restraining the husband and moving him into the other direction.

While we are trying to protect the woman, a man comes up to me and says walk away and let it go, I looked him angrily, he said they are gang amongst each other, dont interfere. I told him he was beating her he said its none of you business, and he kept repeating it i seriously wanted to punch him. but i controlled myself.

The sad part is that she will go home to that guy but i am hoping her brother with continue to protect her.

My conclusion of today is that there is a lot of shit going on that we dont know about or that we know about but decide to ignore it. We have a social responsibility to help others realize their worth, and spread awareness but most of all take care of one another, meaning if you see something like this in the street dont ignore it and walk away, dont be a coward. the sentence “its none of my business” is one of the reasons we are not united; making it easy on several elements to get between us and causing the divide we are in.

Finally a message to President Morsi, You must address the issue of domestic and sexual violence and sexual harassment in the country, you cant keep ignoring the issue and say I have more important issues to address, how do you expect this country to move forward when almost 50% of the population if not more are oppressed and prosecuted just because they are females. How do you expect a mother to raise her kids well when she suffering from her husband inside the house and from strange men out side the house. Laws must be made to criminalize all of these forms of violence. Police officers needs to stop being so passive and say “OH it her husband; sorry we dont interfere in domestic affairs”. Help us Mr President so we can help you.

9 Responses

  1. Thanks much for what you did and how you did it. Keep up the good work.

  2. speechless with the amount of negativity in the streets, speechless with the perfect meaning of gender discrimination, speechless with the amount of anger men can do to woman, seriously, sad as hell to read a story like this, i dunno from where we should start, should we start by protecting stranger women to walk safely in the streets or to protect women from their husbands anger inside and outside the streets, most of what o wrote dont make any sense coz simply if anyone will read or see an incident like this he cant really think of a solution, and add to your msg to “Our President” a revolution is made for dignity, did you find it any where around since you are the first president after the “Revolution”, and for most egyptian men a question ” i think God created women for us to respect and share lives with, and even in Islam i never heard a story for Prophet Muhammed beaten any if his Wives and he even said to all of us “واتقوا الله فى نسائكم”

  3. Kudos!

  4. great job, call violence out and don’t ignore it or it will consume us all.

  5. speechless with the amount of negativity in the streets, speechless with the perfect meaning of gender discrimination, speechless with the amount of anger men can do to woman, seriously, sad as hell to read a story like this, i dunno from where we should start, should we start by protecting stranger women to walk safely in the streets or to protect women from their husbands anger inside and outside the streets, most of what o wrote dont make any sense coz simply if anyone will read or see an incident like this he cant really think of a solution, and add to your msg to “Our President” a revolution is made for dignity, did you find it any where around since you are the first president after the “Revolution”, and for most egyptian men a question ” i think God created women for us to respect and share lives with, and even in Islam i never heard a story for Prophet Muhammed beaten any if his Wives and he even said to all of us “واتقوا الله فى نسائكم”

  6. A part of me is scarred every time I hear such a story. Despite the sizzling rage that urges me to take action, I can’t deny that a bit of hope is stolen every time. Your reaction in this story gives me some comfort but it is swiftly stifled with the thought of what will happen to her later and it’s even more unbearable thinking of that helpless child caught in the middle! Oh the scars she’ll bear!

    So I ask you this, where do you find the strength to keep believing that change is possible in our country?

  7. I cant stop believing that this country will change…believing is HOPE for a better tomorrow and this is what gets out of bed every morning. what helps me is getting with people who are active and believe like me and who wants things to change.

    you will get tired and upset many times but the reward when things go your way is EPIC.

    if I lose hope i become a part of the system and refuse to become another number. channel your anger in making things better.

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